YOU are beautiful

Man alive is beauty being attacked or what? The world focuses so much on outer beauty and how we are 'suppose' to look. Magazines show us perfect flawless images of women and somehow we are suppose to look like them even though we have no hair and make-up team and lack photoshop to make imperfections disappear. I wanted to discuss this subject because I think as women whose husbands are pornography addicts we have an even harder time feeling beautiful. Some of us have had and nursed children (holy body wreckage! but worth it), some of us have acne even though we aren't in high school anymore, and not all of us can afford clothes from Nordstroms. I qualify in all of these categories and to top it off I simply don't have the time to look flawless even if I wanted to for 30 seconds until my kids attack. We as women shouldn't feel the pressure that the world is putting on us. Realize how beautiful you are inside and out. You do not have be flawless to be beautiful. This article is amazing and I want you all to read it! How true it is. Whether you have teenage daughters or not think of the way you would want them to feel about themselves. How do you see them? How would you want them to see themselves as? Now let that be how you see yourself. I'm not kidding. My mom always told me to do my best to look presentable and then leave your looks behind and focus on others. I thank her for that simple yet profound lesson. We can all be happy. We can all help others. We can all smile and laugh. We can have pleasing personalities. These are all FREE accessories to our beauty and boy do I love free! Study the gospel to learn about your true beauty. Don't fall into Satan's trap of the world's 'perfect flawless' beauty idea. It's expensive and hardly acheivable. Work on those free accessories that will inhance the amazing and beautiful woman that you are!

Girls Night

Yay for a much needed girls night. The hubs is out of town for a job interview so I decided to put my kids to bed and invite the girls over. SOOO much fun. Good food, tons of laughing, and my kids even stayed asleep through it all. After everyone left, my best girlfriend stayed and we chatted about more serious things in life. I didn't share with her the actual situation I am going through but gave her a vague understanding of what I am dealing with. We were able to laugh and cry. It feels so good knowing I have friends who love and support me and will cry with me. I don't want her to judge my hubs, which she totally wouldn't, so I haven't told her exactly what we are dealing with. I am mad that I won't just admit it. Maybe she is dealing with it too, maybe she will someday, or maybe she won't but could just be a support. I hate that this is something that is part of my life and that I don't want it to be hidden in the world but I am still too afraid to tell my best friend. I just want to protect my husband's reputation. He is an amazing man and I don't want anyone thinking otherwise. I hope to tell her one of these days so that she can prevent it from entering her life. Something that she said I really liked. She told me that sometimes we have to go through trials not to make us better people but to somehow help our children. This trial is definitely making me better as well as strengthening my marriage. Because of this trial I have really started to pay attention to the world around me. I am doing my best to protect my kids from Satan's grasp. There is so much I can control that I have not been controlling. Television viewing has decreased significantly in our home. Commercials and sitcoms are filled with subtle inuendos and trashy scenes, degrading women and families. We are also very cautious to what our kids wear. We want to teach them modestly from the beginning. Satan is grabbing hold of families without us even knowing it. Be aware of the world around you and start controlling what you allow and don't allow in your home. Make sure it is a safe haven for your precious family. Small inuendos and immodesty can evenutally lead to bigger problems that could have been avoided.